There are some people you will meet in life who always have something negative to say about you and what you do. These people are 100% unhappy with their own lives. Happy people don’t fill the world with negative words, even when they is a problem. Happy people deal with these matters professionally and with a certain level of maturity. This is true for children and adults. At RAW we teach our athletes if they not happy with something to speak up, to ask questions before making accusations, to have mature conversations rather than sitting in a corner spreading rumors or talking negative about another person. Those who hide behind the whisper mill (even more popular these days – go online and post comments without actually dealing with the person directly) are not displaying the behaviors of a mature athlete. Usually what the athlete is angry about is a result of something very solvable. They learn that by simply speaking directly to the person, not speaking AT the person, they can see why there is an issue and it can always be worked out. They quickly begin to learn that some people just love to be negative and hide behind it by saying “Oh I am just speaking the truth” – but their truth is often skewed by their negative mindset. It’s great to see the athletes who get this and follow the rule of open communication (not posting online or sending emails) but actual face to face communication (and sometimes if they are uncomfortable face to face we set up a phone meeting to resolve the issues) is the best way to resolve any frustrations or concerns. They learn you won’t always agree and that is ok.
It’s great to see the mature change in the athletes as the season progress and with 100% certainty those who can not commit to open and positive communication and dedication to their teammates will 100% drop from the program. But in the end all those who remain see it is better to lose a 10 negative people than to keep 1 negative person around.
And always remember, the most negative person is the room is the one who needs the most kindness. So say something nice, smile and go on living your happy day free of negative vibes.