Stop Negative Attitudes with Cheerleading and Dance Programs

1 Sep

Stop Negative Parents and Cheerleaders and Dancers

There are some people you will meet in life who always have something negative to say about you and what you do. These people are 100% unhappy with their own lives. Happy people don’t fill the world with negative words, even when they is a problem. Happy people deal with these matters professionally and with a certain level of maturity. This is true for children and adults. At RAW we teach our athletes if they not happy with something to speak up, to ask questions before making accusations, to have mature conversations rather than sitting in a corner spreading rumors or talking negative about another person. Those who hide behind the whisper mill (even more popular these days – go online and post comments without actually dealing with the person directly) are not displaying the behaviors of a mature athlete. Usually what the athlete is angry about is a result of something very solvable. They learn that by simply speaking directly to the person, not speaking AT the person, they can see why there is an issue and it can always be worked out. They quickly begin to learn that some people just love to be negative and hide behind it by saying “Oh I am just speaking the truth” – but their truth is often skewed by their negative mindset. It’s great to see the athletes who get this and follow the rule of open communication (not posting online or sending emails) but actual face to face communication (and sometimes if they are uncomfortable face to face we set up a phone meeting to resolve the issues) is the best way to resolve any frustrations or concerns. They learn you won’t always agree and that is ok. 

 

It’s great to see the mature change in the athletes as the season progress and with 100% certainty those who can not commit to open and positive communication and dedication to their teammates will 100% drop from the program. But in the end all those who remain see it is better to lose a 10 negative people than to keep 1 negative person around. 

 

And always remember, the most negative person is the room is the one who needs the most kindness. So say something nice, smile and go on living your happy day free of negative vibes.

Cheerleaders from San Francisco, Livermore, San Jose and Fremont Join RAW to be Amazing

27 Aug
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Why small gym over a big training facility

25 Aug

We recently had the opportunity to be apart of group research where parents of Allstar Cheerleaders were invited to come and speak freely about the pro’s and con’s of the Allstar Cheerleading World. The Marketing research group started out by letting the parents know what there were some Allstar Coaches and Vendors in the group but those particular parties would not be made known publicly. So the meeting kicked off with what were the main reasons why people chose programs: Price, size of program, facility size and location, uniforms, etc. Some of the reason’s were pretty interesting, while some were just expected.

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Then we got on the topic of Big vs Small. Most of the parents who chose the Big programs, really chose them because their kids really wanted to join because of a friend or a performance they saw online. It was an amazingly small number of people who chose a big facility because they truly would help their child be a stronger athlete. Some cared and had not really put much thought into while others just cared more about having a big crowd at competitions. Those who were anti-big program, really stressed how many of the athletes do not reach their full athletic potential in a “reasonable” amount of time, other’s felt like big places cared more about the money and less about their child(ren). Then there were a few personal reason’s thrown out there, but we won’t mention because once the story is told you may figure out who they were speaking about.

Now onto the topic of Small Programs. Those who support small programs mentioned things like: The growth of their child as an athlete was very important to them and small programs gave each child more training and one-on-one attention, some mentioned they like the feeling that everyone mattered, others liked that smaller programs seemed more focus on the kids growing as leaders and athletes. Those who changed from big to small mentioned on the change they see for their kids, the kids seem to work harder and more united. The con’s that some mentioned was they feel like small programs are that loud in the crowd at competitions and kids need a loud crowd to support them. Some were concerned that their kids wouldn’t learn much from a small program and what was most amazing was there was a group of parents who agreed that they preferred the big program because their kids gets to be in the back of the performance and still enjoy a win even though they didn’t know all the skills.

It was an honor to be a part of this group. It is important to see the different reason’s why people chose certain programs. As coaches, we really side on the small or medium programs that focus on the athlete more than the bottom dollar. Bills do need to be paid, but our jobs as coaches is to make sure a child is not at our gym for 4 years only to walk away with bigger level skills. A coach should never ALLOW that and parent should always demand more. If they have 300 athletes, they should just as dedicated to each of those athletes as they would if they had 10 athletes. Also, small programs need to remember that Athletes need to be treated with a high level of support, parents need to rally behind their kids at competitions every program should feel a large power of support no matter how big or small they are.

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Nor Cali RAW Allstars Championship Training

2 Jun

Small Gym, amazing athletes. Come be a part of RAW Allstars

I Didn’t Make the Cheer Dance Team but its ok!

1 Jun

How to Handle Not Making the Cheerleading or Dance Team

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You have been preparing all year by taking dance and cheer classes. You attend cheer clinics and spent  the next week or so practicing day and night perfecting the moves. Tryouts day hits, you look your best, you have your biggest and brightest smile possible and you shout those cheers out loud enough for the world to hear. You wait anxiously outside the window with everyone else who tried out. Slowly the coach walks down the hall to post the list. The list goes up and everyone rushes toward the window to search for the name, you look and look again only to find YOUR NOT ON THE LIST.

Not making the team can lead to a list of emotions and its hard for friends and family to know the best way to help you deal with that lost or sad feeling you may have.  First, if your a parent, you need to understand that no matter how you feel about cheerleading or dance team, this tryout was important to your child so you must respond with care and positive comments. Let them know, not making it is not a reflection on them, each tryout is different and some factors weigh more than others. Congratulate your child for having the courage it took to even tryout. So many kids want to tryout but are too scared to do it and your child had enough courage to get out there and do his/her best.  Let them know you understand not to get something you really want in life, but its not the end of the world. Remind them of other plans they had for the school year, encourage them to join a sport they love. Don’t tell your child not to cry, encourage them to show their sadness in a healthy way.

If your the cheerleader or dancer who didn’t make it, then we want to keep a few things in mind. Most tryouts are not just based on your cheering and dancing abilities. Tryouts judges consider a variety of items when judging a competition, some wonder how you would fit in with the returning team members, sometimes your teacher referrals hold a heavier score then your overall performance, in some cases they are thinking about next season’s routine and they are trying to visualize each person doing upcoming routines, and sometimes (and sorry but this is a very sad reality) they just chose teams based on current team members friends/family or kids they just have a preference too.

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A couple of things to consider, if you find yourself in this situation. First, if they don’t give you tryout score sheets, ask for some constructive feedback. Usually they will give you tips for the next time you tryout. Second, consider the fact that it may not have been you at all and just something that wasn’t a good fit for them as of right now. If you ever watch the Dallas Cowboy Cheerleader Show, think about the time the coaches pulled a girl in a room and a performer how much they love the her, how beautiful she is, how amazing she is but they just couldn’t see her on the team. There is nothing you can do about that, if they love you but don’t see you as a great fit, that’s just that. It’s like you meet a really awesome guy but you just can see yourself dating him, no matter how awesome he is the connection just isn’t there. That happens with cheer and dance teams too. Third, remember it is not the end of the world, you can still cheer or dance for a team. Consider joining an Allstar Cheer and Dance program. Our Nor Cali Bay Area Cheerleading loves accepting all members regardless of experience. We have met some amazing cheerleaders and dancers who didn’t make their competitive team, but they join us and they are some of our strongest performers. If you really love cheer and dance, go online and see if you can find a local cheer or dance team you can join. Its a great way to do what you had your heart set on and get the experience you may need in order to tryout for your school next year.

Good luck and always SMILE BIG!

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RAW Allstars Training has begun Cheer still has a few slots

1 Jun

First day of training. Doing a pretty good job on the stunt pairings. Excited to see how they do when all of summer training is done

Bay Area Allstars Cali Team Placements

16 May

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